Archive for January, 2009
Do you know that your body and mind react a lot in the way you think? If you think you want something in life, you will get it, though it may take some time. Your body works on energy systems and energy flow, the more positive it is, the more you feel positive and the more positive things happen for you. Yes it is true. So if you want success in life, it has to start with a positive attitude.
Midlife is a normal developmental stage in everyone’s life. It may involve experiences of loss, change and letting go of much of what you bring into midlife. But you may also experience excitement and freedom from the past. If you prepare yourself you could complete this journey with a minimal amount of struggle.
How do we create successful midlife transition?
You could create a successful midlife transition through mindfulness and planning. Life coaches who help with midlife transition say that if you focus on living consciously you would find your path and fulfillment in this journey.
The first 10 to 20seconds are crucial in creating the best fist impression in your first meeting. People observe you from head to toe. They study your physical personality, demeanor, mannerisms, body language, your style or fashion, etc. It is therefore vital for you to make the best impression. Because once the impression is made, it is mostly irreversible. If you have made a good one, it is good; but if you have not, the damage is done. You may interest some and disappoint others. Most of us wish to make the best impression in others whether the meeting is personal or professional.
Courage is also known as bravery. It is the ability to face fear, pain, danger, uncertainty or intimidation. It is called ‘physical courage’ while facing physical challenges such as pain and hardship and ‘moral courage’ while enduring shame and discouragement.
The opposite of courage is fear. Courage makes your fear disappear. Courage is an important quality or character that you should have in order to face life’s many challenges.
Is it possible for all of us to have courage?
Is it possible to forgive someone truly from the bottom of our heart? We could say that the ability to forgive lies in direct proportion to the degree of the harm done. Still forgiving is better than harboring enmity. When you harbor negative thoughts of revenge and harm against your enemy your enemy would not suffer from those thoughts. But you certainly would have bad effects. Your thoughts could linger in your mind and smother positive feelings. In order to replace the poison of negativity with pure air of positive thoughts, you should consciously take the action of forgiving.
Forgiveness is possible and it is necessary for your physical and mental health. Research shows that people who forgive show lesser depression, anger and stress and have more positive attitude in life. Psychologists say that forgiveness help save on the wear and tear of our organs and reduce the wearing out of the immune system.
You could try these tips to forgive and forget:
A personal development plan is a structured and supported process undertaken by an individual to consider and improve upon his personal, educational and professional development. The individual is in control of his own development with the opportunity to monitor and steer his growth. It is simply a tool to encourage and support lifelong learning.
The process involves identifying the areas that need development, planning, executing and reviewing.
We all tend to have a mental block when it comes to addressing our own problems. Many people are afraid about taking time and thinking about their problems and solutions to those problems. A PDP would help them to solve their problems in an easy manner.
Your learning style refers to the ways you acquire and process new information. We all have our preferences and each of us learn and process information in our own unique ways. Your learning style may be the single most important key to improving your grades.
There are basically three different primary learning styles we use to learn and process information in our mind – visual, auditory and kinesthetic. People in general may apply any two or all these three types of learning styles. It is also quite common to use different learning style for different tasks.
Do you always try to please others in order to gain acceptance from them? Sometimes this may lead you to unhappiness and depression. It is nice to care about other people’s feelings but you should understand that your needs are just as important. By giving more importance to others, you tend to ignore yourself as a special being. You could be considerate of others and at the same time you could be just yourself in order to maintain personal balance in your life.
Addictive relationships are sometimes hard to notice. Psychologists believe that one tends to get into addictive relationships if he or she grew up in a dysfunctional home. Many times one realizes that he or she is in an addictive relationship only after understanding it by going through it.
The addicted person needs the other person to fulfill all his needs. As with any other addiction, there are many issues in this type of a relationship such as control, trauma, self-worth, fear, loss of a sense of self, etc. The relationship is used as a means to attempt to resolve other deeper unidentified and unresolved problems.
One of the most essential skills needed in handling people and situations is assertiveness. You are assertive if you are clear in letting others know about your expectations without any anxiety or hesitation. This is one area of development to be focused on when coaching executives. Many in management sectors confuse ‘assertiveness’ with ‘aggressiveness.’
What are some of the differences between assertiveness and aggressiveness?
If you are assertiive you ask people of what you want directly and openly. There is an air of reassurance and confident around you at all times. While you do ask for your wants and preferences, you make sure to respect other people’s rights and you do not expect others to know what is on your mind without expressing yourself.