Shyness can start at an early age and this can have a great effect on your life as an adult if it goes unchecked.  A parent who notices some symptoms of shyness in his child should help his child become more confident by encouraging him to play with other kids or to learn special skills that will expose him to groups of people.

A person who is so shy he can sit down for hours in a party talking err and mumbling to himself, should do something about his condition if he wants to lead a normal life.  Shy people normally do not have many friends and support groups so they should take the first move and help themselves get over their shyness.

There is no easy way to cure shyness but you can gradually get rid of this malady by doing some things that will help you.  You can start getting rid of shyness by greeting every person you happen to pass by a good morning or a good day.  These are two words but if you are able to muster enough courage to say them to these people then you are on your way to ridding yourself of shyness.

If you have a good or even just a passable voice then you can take up singing as a hobby.  Singing can be a solo thing and you can sing at the top of your voice in your bedroom, in your bathroom while taking a bath and no one can hear you except your family members.

Once you have mustered enough courage to sing in public then practice on songs that goes perfectly with your voice range.  This way you are able to give a good performance and it will help you boost your confidence.

If you are a student then you can join school activities like the Intramurals or other programs where you can showcase your singing prowess.  Success and popularity are like magnets that attract people so if you are able to sing well at these events, you will have a small group of people who will start talking to you all the time or would even go far to accompany you during mealtimes.

If you are an office worker then why not showcase your singing prowess during the office party?  Everybody loves a winner and if you can show them you can sing well then you would be an office favorite especially during programs.

Singing will give you the opportunity to believe in yourself and show yourself that you have a special talent you can share with others.  As you gain a lot of confidence in your singing you would be able to socialize better and to develop rapport with people.

Singing is a hobby that requires training and hard work.  You will not learn how to sing overnight so you have to invest time and effort in singing.  As you practice your skill in singing you would be able to unlearn shyness and then learn some socializing skills that will help you get along with other people later on.

Shyness is really lack of character and deficiency in your self worth.  If you can prove to yourself that you can do something if you work hard enough to achieve it like singing, then you would be more confident that you have something special within you that would make it worthwhile for other people to at least talk to you.

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Mind mapping is a breakthrough concept wherein you will use the properties of association to come up with a drawing, map, or illustration of the ideas lodged in your brain about a particular topic.

Sounds confusing? Actually, mind mapping is a lot easier than what you think. This is because this technique or concept follows the natural workings of the brain – which associates one word with another word to have a clear picture of the overall idea.

For example, if you say technology, there are several things that will instantly come to your mind. This central theme can branch out to the Internet, gadgets, mobile devices, telecommunications – the list is practically endless. Thus, mind mapping will give you more leeway when it comes to freedom of expression in the sense that one keyword is not just limited to one sub-topic, but it can branch out to several sub-topics. This will help you easily remember and understand the main concept which is represented by one word.

To have a deeper understanding of the process of mind mapping, take a look at the following example and how-to guide:

1. On a piece of paper, write down the central idea or the main theme of the topic that you want to tackle. Enclose it in a box or circle.

2. From this main word, what other words can you associate with it? Take the aforementioned example which is technology. How many branches of technology are there? From the circle of box that you have drawn in the middle of the paper, draw branches or curved arrows surrounding the main theme and connect them all together.

3. If you can think of other sub-topics under the branches of technology, place another batch of boxes or circles to represent these sub-topics.

4. Let all your ideas branch out until you are satisfied with the results and you have exhausted all the possibilities.

The resulting illustration will be the result of your mind mapping. Now, isn’t this easier than making copious and detailed notes about the branches of technology and all the other sub-topics under it.

You will surely remember this map by heart because you are the one who made it – which is a plus factor, aside from the fact that visual maps are easier to remember than attempting to memorize pages of lists.

There are also mind mapping software available for you, since a lot of people find the process so useful and time-saving. No matter which method of mind mapping you choose, be it using a mind mapping software or through the traditional pen and paper – the important thing is that you can enjoy the benefits of living up to your brain’s potential by making use of this ingenious mind mapping technique.

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Aggression is a behavior that results in physical or mental injury to people or animals, or in the destruction of property. It is different from assertion. Assertion is an act of self-defense. It protects someone from becoming a victim of other people’s aggressive behavior. Assertiveness is an important indication of developmental progress, as it reflects a child’s capabilities and sense of independence.

Aggression is often learned at an early age through “social reinforcing” or role modeling. Babies study the expressions of others to learn how to act. From birth, babies already feel pleasure, distress, and even fear. By the age of 3 months, they are capable of recognizing expressions of joy and sadness. Babies 6 to 12 months old can slowly show signs of hostile aggression by biting, wailing, and even slapping.

From 12 to 18 months old, children are continuously experimenting and picking up emotional cues from their parents, caregivers, and peers. Their emotional-internal response goes through tests and fine-tuning, as they determine which response or action fits a situation. By age 2, kids can express emotions like empathy and shame. Hostile aggression appears as tantrums, and happen when they fail to communicate their emotions.

Pre-schoolers, on the other hand, manifest aggression through hitting or saying threatening words. According to experts, when children turn to aggression, it doesn’t mean they’re bad. It’s just an indication that there is something they can’t express. Something is causing them internal pain. Parents should try to understand what is going on in their child’s life. There is a huge responsibility to understand the developmental stage of childhood.

To deal with kids’ aggressive behavior, parents can try to:

- Soothe them. Most children calm down and feel better when they are held. Sometimes a loving touch is all they need.
- Amuse or surprise them. Provide kids with diversions that are sure to keep their mind away from unruly behavior. Using non-sarcastic humor or doing the unexpected can defuse an explosive situation. Giving kids something to occupy their minds turns negative attention into something positive.
- Take time out. You can employ this as a way to remove your child from the situation and cool him or her down. And this applies to you, too. Don’t forget to explain the reason for the time-out, but do this in a tone that is firm but mild.
- Intervene and teach empathy. Empathy is taught when you put them in a situation that makes them feel what others are feeling. Discuss with them the consequences of hurting others: what happens if they use aggression, and what ways there are other than violence.
- Ignore. Don’t enforce aggressive behavior on kids by giving a child more attention. Underplay bad behavior as much as possible. Stick by your decision and don’t easily give in to their plea for attention.

As parents, therefore, we should keep the following in mind at all times.

- Be a model of good behavior.
- Giving in to your children’s demands tells them that tantrums bring desired results.
- Don’t allow your embarrassment to weaken your better judgment.
- Reassess all factors that may stir up a tantrum. See if you can do something to help them settle down before they totally blow up.

Every human being needs to learn how to deal with frustration. Tantrums are the first step in accommodating frustration. If your child does not throw any fit at all, that is not necessarily something to be proud of. It is a parent’s job to help children learn more productive ways of dealing with obstructions.

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The body is a mass of muscles and bones waiting to be honed into perfection. It is like a mass of rock or timber waiting to be chiseled into a masterpiece, or like a pile of construction materials waiting to be built into a skyscraper.

The body has latent but explosive potentials waiting to be unleashed. If carved out, trimmed, molded, and polished, this potential can bend tough steel to submission and lift heavy iron to its proper place.

Yet, the body initially comes out in its raw form - untapped. Like raw natural resources that are rich though unrefined, the body has to be developed through a process. It must be rid of useless “alloys” (or flabby flesh coverings) to acquire the essential ones (the muscles). The body must be developed into its full potential.

As raw material is nothing if it remains untapped or hidden underground, so is the body’s potential if it remains dormant. The Mona Lisa is a priceless artwork. It originally came from a raw material. The paints used were originally from raw elements of the earth. Had those materials not been made into a conglomeration of canvass and paint mixtures, their potential to produce a world class masterpiece would not have been possible. They would have been useless.

Rocks remain to be mere debris if not sculpted out to be art compositions. Timber will only be good firewood if untouched by the chisel strokes of a carver. Cement, sand, gravel, and steel bars will remain being a construction site if not used for their true intent and design.

In the same way, the body will lose its function if it remains to be a mere untapped potential, undeveloped and left for waste. It will hasten its degeneration if its real design and purpose continues to be ignored.

Muscles and bones are in our bodies for a purpose. They were not put there to remain at rest or to be idle. As things gather dust, moist, and web when ignored for a long time, so do the muscles and bones quickly gather aches, failures, and breakdowns when undeveloped.

Ultimate care for your muscles and bones involves exercising and building them up. Challenge and exert them to full power. Stretch, squeeze, and expand your muscles until they become well sculpted and rock-hard. This will in turn affect your ligaments to put your bones to greater works. You will be like metal hammered into form through flaming hot fire. Then your body will come out of the furnace shining like gold.

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The home is a child’s first school. Children first learn to share by observing how their parents act. The environment where they grow up is a huge factor in determining how familiar they will be with situations that involve sharing.

Eventually, when children enter the big school, they are faced with more experiences of sharing. They realize that even though the teacher’s attention has to be shared with so many other kids, the teacher sees to it that all the children still get their fair share of attention. The young mind begins to see that teaching itself is an act of sharing.

How is sharing taught in school?

This value can be formally and directly incorporated in the lessons. It could appear in stories, math problems, or language exercises. Also, it may or may not be openly discussed, depending on time constraints. This value can also be learned from an actual school situation. Through verbal and non-verbal affirmations from the teacher, sharing can be shown as a valuable trait to possess.

Being highly visual learners, young children respond to a warm smile or an approving appreciative look. Sensitive and resourceful teachers know that learning is maximized when one knows how to utilize fully those opportune moments for teaching. Sometimes, when a child forgets to bring food for recess, the teacher would ask, “Who brought extra food? Would you like to share it with your classmate?” Some children offer, some don’t. But even if they don’t, they watch and they learn.

A child should never be forced to share. One is invited to. One is simply shown the joy that another feels because he or she shared. When a child shares a material possession, be it food, paper, or books, a transformation occurs: by going out of oneself, one discovers the self.

How does one guide the child to find the right balance between sharing and oversharing?

- Explain in simple terms what sharing means: “the owner granting to another partial use, enjoyment, or possession of something.”
- Be observant of situations where it is the same child who shares – or borrows – all the time. Speak to the child about it. Find out if there is an underlying reason behind it.
- Explain to the child that there are times when constant sharing with the same person will not help that person. Instead of preparing his school things as he should, that person can end up depending on the one who always shares.
- Assure children that it is all right to say “no”. Say “yes” if you want to say “yes”, and “no” if you want to say “no”. True sharing is an act done not because you fear someone, or you want to impress someone, but because you feel happy doing it.
- The food they bring to school has been prepared for them. If they have extra, they can share. They should not end up going hungry because they “shared”.

When teaching a child to share in school, we increase our level of effectiveness if we take the time to know the child well. This will help us respect the child’s personal rhythm, thus allowing the child to maximize his or her potential to the fullest – so that he or she may one day share more with others.

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In his book ‘Power vs Force’, David Hawkins calibrates people’s
emotions from levels 20 up to 1000. 20 being Shame which is
perilously proximate to death. It’s destructive to emotional and
psychological health, and makes us prone to physical illness.

At the other end of the scale at 700- 1000 is enlightenment. This
is the level of the Great Ones such as Krishna, Buddha and Jesus.
It is the peak of the evolutionary consciousness in the human realm.

All levels (which could be classed as vibration levels) below 200
are said to be energy draining, and below integrity. These vary
from Guilt (30), Grief (75), Fear (100) up to Pride (175).

People feel positive as they reach Pride level. However Pride feels
good only in contrast to the lower levels. Pride is defensive and
vulnerable because it’s dependent upon external conditions, without
which is can suddenly revert to a lower level.

At the 200 level, power first appears. Courage (200) is the zone of
exploration, accomplishment, fortitude, and determination. People
at this level put back into the world as much energy as they take;
at the lower levels, populations as well as individuals drain
energy from society without reciprocating.

Further levels include willingness (310), Acceptance (350) and Love
(500).

This level is characterized by the development of a Love that is
unconditional, unchanging, and permanent. It doesn’t fluctuate -
its source isn’t dependent on external factors. Loving is a state
of being. This is the level of true happiness.

Interesting facts from the book -

* The concept and theories behind these experiments were conducted
over a 20 year period using a variety of Kinesiology tests and
examinations.

* Kinesiology has an almost certain 100% accuracy reading every
time. It will always reveal Yes, No, True, and False answers.

* Collective Consciousness: These experiments reveal that there is
a higher power that connects everything and everyone

* Everything calibrates at certain levels from weak to high
including books, food, water, clothes, people, animals, buildings,
cars, movies, sports, music etc.

* 85% of the human race calibrates below the critical level of 200.

* The overall average level of human consciousness stands at 207.

* Human consciousness was dangling at below the 200 level (190) for
many centuries before it suddenly rose up to its present level some
time in the mid 1980s. Hence Nostradamus’s end of the world
predictions may have been avoided (he made his predictions at a
time when human consciousness was at below the 200 level). For the
world to stay at levels below 200 over a prolonged period of time
would cause a great imbalance that would undoubtedly lead to the
destruction of all humanity.

* The power of the few individuals at the top counterbalances the
weakness of the masses.

* 1 individual at level 300 counterbalances 90,000 individuals
below level 200

* 1 individual at level 500 counterbalances 750,000 individuals
below level 200

* 1 individual at level 700 counterbalances 70 million individuals
below level 200

In other words, as a co creator of our world, if you vibrate at 200
and above you will be helping to raise the consciousness of
mankind, and be a big part in creating a better world for all of us.

And the good news is that the consciousness levels are rising.
There is a positive shift occuring.

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Greg Frost

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However little or too much food that you give yourself, it all boils down to the metabolism process. It is not right to starve yourself, but neither should you eat a lot. It is recommended that you just eat the right amount that will provide for your body’s needs.

Eat Little and Often
Eating small portions of your regular meals more often during the day is said to be better than devouring large amount of food during the times of the day when you ought to eat a lot.

The reason for this is because ten percent of the calories is being used by the body in digesting the food you ate and absorbing it further. In doing so, eating more frequently will really do your body good, as long as you keep the food intake minimal.

Small Portion Sizes
There is a vast diversity in the kinds of food available now for everyone to choose from. This causes more and more people to eat more than they should, not minding the calories that they give their bodies.

Even the portion sizes have increased nowadays. This fact can be proven by the study that was done by the researchers at the University of North Carolina. They found out that there is a significant change in the portion sizes of the key food groups in America between the years 1977 and 1996.Such change was brought about by people’s tendency to consume more salty snacks, beverages, burgers, fries and the likes than ever before.

The Size Matters
It is only typical for a person to eat everything that is on the plate, whether or not the stomach can take it in. This is because the body is psychologically set to finish off the food even if the stomach is already full.

There are studies being done that shows how people feel more satisfied when given lesser portions of food, as long as they eat often. Keeping your body healthy will also make you happy, so watch what you eat and as much as possible, try to boost your metabolic rate regularly.

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Leaders all over the world and of different industries would no doubt agree that getting to their position of authority was the easy part; the challenging part is the act of retaining their position.

When you’re in the running for a position of authority, you may feel like what you’re facing is already the most difficult time in your life. But wait till you get elected as the CEO of a company, the president of the student council, or the representative of your town; and that’s when you’ll know the real meaning of pressure. The harsh power of the limelight is always focused on the leader; every move he makes is magnified. Leaders are harshly condemned even for the smallest of mistakes and anything they do well is still treated to its share of criticisms.

For that very reason, it’s absolutely important to prevent your leadership skills from becoming stagnant. Once you make the error of believing that you already have everything it takes to become a good leader, that’s when things start going downhill.

The following tips shall aid you in continually improving your leadership skills and in becoming a better and well-rounded leader in effect.

Leading by Example – Doing the exact same things you expect from your employees is the best way to ensure their continued allegiance. No employee would be able to rationalize any of his wrongdoings if his superior doesn’t count himself as someone exempt from the rules.

If you want to continue as your team’s leader, make sure that your actions befit your position; in other words, act like a leader if you wish to be treated as a leader.

Integrity – The moment you forget the importance of acting with integrity at all times is the moment that you’ve renounced your status as a good leader. So always keep your word and remember to be honest and fair in all your dealings.

Maintaining a Balance between Compassion and Firmness – No wrongdoing must escape punishment; but in exercising your power and right to penalize your people, you must also remember to act fairly and compassionately. While explicit and blatant disregard of rules must always be stringently punished, actions that were borne out of desperation and emotional weakness should be considered in a slightly more favorable light.

To keep your leadership skills from getting rusty, always remind yourself for the need to act lenient or strict at the right moment.

Removing Barriers – While it’s always good to maintain a certain (short) distance between you and your employees to keep them from treating you like a peer or colleague, it’s necessary as well not to place too much barriers between you and your people.

The moment you do, you will find it increasingly difficult to place yourself in their shoes whenever conflicts arise between the management and rank and file. When that happens, you will have a severely limited understanding of your people’s position and consequently, a limited ability to make the right decision for them.

Remember that leadership doesn’t solely revolve on telling people to do things; leadership is also exercised by serving your people the best way you can. How can you do that if you don’t understand where your people is coming from?

The Importance of Motivation – Sadly, most leaders fail to recognize the importance of motivation and keeping their skills of encouragement from getting rusty. Forgetting the need to properly motivate your people is one good way of letting your leadership skills gather dust.

Your people look up to you for guidance and inspiration. Make sure you do so by providing them with all the words of encouragement and praise that they need.

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A great conversationalist is not born. He or she is made. You just have to practice as often as so you can by walking up to people and at the same time enabling them to also talk to you.

Smile. When people see that you are happy, this sends a message to them that you are approachable and friendly. Chances are, they will even smile back and that could already be the beginning of the conversation.

Be honest and not tactless. There are different ways of driving a point; you have to find the right words to say without offending the other person. If you have nothing nice to say, better not say anything and move on to another topic.

Listen and give your full attention. A master conversationalist is more of a listener than a talker. Give the other party time to respond; encourage them to also ask questions or express their opinions.

The previous step can only work by showing interest about the other person and their interests. Studies show that showing importance to the other person will make it easier for you to strike a conversation rather than just talking about yourself.

When you are talking with someone, always address them by their first name. This is a sign that you show importance to who they are, which also strengthens that friendship.

In a conversation, you shouldn’t complain, condemn or criticize; but rather, point out what you didn’t like in a gentle manner. Try to look at the things they have done correctly and acknowledge them.

Serve food! Did you know that food is very useful in striking a conversation? This is the reason that cocktails are served before the meal itself; so if there are guests coming over, make sure there is something ready to be served.

You too can be come a great conversationalist. So, smile, show some respect and interest to whoever you are talking to and you will be just fine.

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We deal with stress in our day-to-day lives. Sometimes it causes too much coping that we end up resorting to certain substances that lend temporary relief or ease the tension. Be it alcohol, caffeine, or over the counter medications, there’s a big chance that we might fall prey to the ongoing trend of “substance dependence”.

What is substance dependence? It means having a combination of cognitive (thinking), behavioral (actions) and physiologic (physical) symptoms that indicate the continued use of a certain substance regardless of the significant life problems it causes.

Sounds all too familiar? If you’re not that sure…below are some tell-tale clues you just might be included in the latest statistics of girls and guys hooked on a substance…

1. You develop tolerance. It means that while you are using a substance, you develop a need to increase the amount you take in order to achieve the same effect. Let’s say you’re hooked on coffee. There will come a time when your regular cup can’t satisfy your need to perk up; it simply doesn’t give you the “kick”. So you gulp down 2 or 3 more cups to get the same level of stimulation.

2. Withdrawal signs. The moment you forget to take in a substance, you experience a variety of symptoms such as headache, depression, and anxiety. These can only subside if you have the substance again.

3. No portion-cutting. Once you’re dependent on a substance, you can only increase the dose. There’s just a one way street. You will find it very difficult to cut-down or limit the amount you take. Otherwise, the withdrawal symptoms would resurface.

Since the ultimate defense of substance-dependents happens to be DENIAL, recognizing the familiarity of the signs above could be the first vital step in solving your problem (if you have it). The primary lead in recovery is to first accept the fact that indeed the problem is present. It’s never too late to get help and be free of the addiction…

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