5 Rules For Releasing Control
Do you find it difficult to let anyone do anything for you? Do you attempt to do everything on your own so you don’t have to ask for help? If so, you may have control issues.
Control is a serious problem that many people face. It has been said that Type A personalities suffer from control issues most. There are some things you can do to help release that hold of control.
1) Forget about perfection. Do you always seem to get wrapped up in trying to make everything perfect? Do you scrub your floors until they are absolutely spotless? Do you rewrite a single paragraph umpteen times until you feel like it’s perfect? There is nothing without a flaw. Remind yourself to forget about perfection sometimes.
2) Accept “good enough.” Controllers struggle a great deal with this one, too, because to them it seems like nothing is ever good enough. This plays right into the hand of perfectionism, too. You have to allow yourself to stop at some point and say “Okay, this is good enough for now.”
3) Practice saying “no.” You probably tend to take on way too many responsibilities, all because you think you can’t say no. The problem with this is that when some people recognize this flaw in you, they will use it to the fullest of their ability. Be cautious of this, and allow yourself to turn things down when you don’t want to or don’t have time to do them.
4) Delegate responsibilities to others. Stop trying to do everything all by yourself. There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking someone else to help you out with something. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, call a friend and enlist help to complete the task.
5) Celebrate small victories. Controllers often overlook victories won because they’re too busy trying to maintain control over the next battle. Stop doing this to yourself! Celebrate your victories, big and small. You’ll be encouraged to keep moving forward.
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